1: Start with a DM.
In a perfect world, going home for the holidays would mean catching up with old friends.
As people change, sometimes their availability and capacity to stay in contact changes, she tells Bustle.
Sometimes its reflective of broader contexts, likemanaging stressors or mental health.
Instead, its a sign that life has likely gotten in the way.
People get busy, they go through stuff, and just like that you both lose track.
Thankfully, theholidays really are the perfect time to rekindle old connections.
Start With A DM.
While a simple hey, its been forever!
Itll put a positive spin on things and relieve some of your nerves before you chat or meet up.
Ask When Theyll Be In Town.
During the holidays, many people head back home to see family.
If youd like to hang with your friend in real life, Williams suggests being straightforward about it.
you’ve got the option to say something like, Hey, Nicole.
Ill be back in town for Thanksgiving and would love to catch up!
Will you be around?
Make Plans That Keep It Moving.
However, when you have a drink with someone the main event really is the conversation.
Throw a few gutter balls together and youll likely start to feel comfy.
Chat About Old Times.
Catch Up On Current Topics.
Pro tip: Pepper in lots ofopen-ended questions.
Asking things like What do you do on weekends these days?
or Whats your favorite thing about your new job?
Brace Yourself For Change.
If not, thats OK, too.
If so, just appreciate that those times happened, she says.
Be As Honest As Possible.
If you catch yourself comparing timelines, focus on having fun instead.
According to Alvarado, your friends are likely experiencing some level of self-consciousness, too.
Make Plans For The Future.
If your chat or hangout is going well, see how it feels to make a few post-holiday plans.
