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The highlight of theSex, Love & Goopstars day will surprise you.
Shoveling horse manure at her ranch outside of Ojai, California.
Instead, the joy Boehm finds in her morning ritual is a nod to how far shes come.
Boehm, who grew up in Austria, always wanted a horse as a child.
She spent years mucking out stables in hopes of getting a riding lesson in return.
Now, the renowned expert has five acres and a barnyard of her own.
But she squashes the notion that her work is only for those in real trouble.
Thursday, October 28, 2021
6 a.m.:I wake up and its still dark out.
This is actually late for me.
Im not a morning person, but I typically get up between 5 and 5:30 a.m. now.
Every weekend, I start classes at 1 a.m. for those in the UK and Europe.
Ive had to train my body to get up early and go to bed early.
Dr. Andrew Hubermans podcastHuberman Labtaught me how to do that.
And then no light in the evening the hour before you go to sleep.
I give my dogs names that correspond to where they come from.
6:15 a.m.: I have my first cup of tea and make notes for the day.
I pull a fewtarot cards.
Im not crazy about reading the future its more of a reflection.
I have very beautiful cards, so I look at the images mostly.
I sit and watch the first light outside, just taking a few minutes before the day starts.
7:00 a.m.:Next, I start shoveling horse manure.
The barnyard is my happy place, and I love being outside and getting the first-morning sun.
I get to really connect with my land and the animals.
8:45 a.m.:I pour another cup of tea and start work for real.
I love these hour-long sessions when people from Europe, the UK, and the U.S. all come together.
Today were working on releasing pent-up tension.
I prepared some of my favorite drumming music, and we are off.
They’re a little less inhibited around moving their body and engaging with any emotions that are stuck.
I do miss live classes, and I’m hoping theyll happen again soon.
But now that we’re doing it, I just have to adapt so that I can still teach.
10 a.m.: Now its time to tackle my least favorite part of work emails.
I get between 400-1,000 emails per day!
Because I mostly do public teaching now, I only have 10 clients at any given time.
They typically text me, so the emails Im getting are often inquiries about workshops or personal check-ins.
Some are about business stuff I’m publishinganother booksoon.
11 a.m.: I start a private session with the wife of a couple I am working with.
The questions were about how they want to reengage in their relationship now that their kids have grown up.
It’s the next chapter of their lives, individually and together.
I create the questions for them, but they letmeknow a lot of things.
In this case, for instance, they said, “We want to reconnect as a couple.”
They had thought it was just the sexual part that wasn’t OK.
But really, they needed to first acknowledge that theyve had it really tough for a while.
12 p.m.:I have a quick call with my office.
I have an amazing office manager, Casey, who I talk with every day.
But, of course, on camera you could’t do that.
I’m still learning and still practicing being a lot more headline-worthy.
1:15 p.m:Im all ready and get into the car the data pipe sent.
I give a shot to wear my mask in a way that doesnt destroy my makeup.
I never wear makeup, so when I need to, someone has to do it for me.
They show me scenes fromSex/Lifeand have me comment as I watch.
4:00 p.m.:I go back in the car.
Its spontaneous one of those, “Are you free?
calls because he needs advice.
I have a few clients like that, where I’m essentially on call.
I have a very open-door policy for people.
This particular client is really cool and very lovely.
I adore him, so he always gets my time.
We talk for 20 minutes until reception goes out.
I write a text to finish the conversation and make some notes for next time.
Then I check on my animals and water a few plants that look dry.
6:30 p.m.:Im done with work for the day.
I pour myself a glass of red wine, start on dinner, and hang out with my dogs.
8:30 - 9:00 p.m.:Im winding down in the bathtub.
This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.
This article was originally published onNovember 19, 2021
