“I Do”
Take inspiration from the meaningful ways queer couples have adapted dated traditions.
Weddings can feel very copy-paste.
But it doesnt have to be that way.
At the end of the day its your event.
Shouldnt it feel like you and your partner?
If anyone knows about reinventing nuptials, queer couples and their planners are experts.
Ive grown up in a world designed around straight people.
If youre queer and planning a wedding, take inspiration from the couples below.
For example, my friend and her spouse got married in gorgeous pink and gold gowns.
The most important thing is that you feel like yourself.
Skip Boring Cocktail Hours
Wedding plannerEmily Monusloves how queer celebrations can play with form and function.
For example, she once staged various portions of the day inspired by the couples love languages.
She also had an event open with a live reading of aGolden Girlsscene performed by the newlyweds friends.
There are plenty of ways to step outside the box: Morning person?
Host a brunch wedding.
Prefer gaming to dancing?
Swap in a queso fountain with tortilla chips.
My queer couples have inspired me to level up my posing game.
Intentional tweaks pay off.
Instead, Ill [ask them to dance] while their partner giggles in the background.
If anatomy-shaped party favors arent your style, this is your chance to break the mold.
Give Back
Carry Puppies Down The Aisle
Bouquets are fine.
But what if your wedding party carried adoptable puppies down the aisle instead?
Yes,this is a thingreally.
Pay It Forward
Your nuptials can be a chance to do good.
Instead of offering party favors, consider donating to a cause you champion in your guests names.
Put Your Money Where Your Heart Is
Why not use the occasion to support like-minded small businesses?
There are so many incredible LGBTQ+ folks working in the wedding industry, they say.
If you meet one, ask for recommendations in other vendor categories.
Working with people you trust can be so beneficial when its midnight and youre panic-texting about napkin folds.
Why should a brides brother have to stand on the grooms side?
Where does a nonbinary cousin go?
What if the couple has a mutual best friend?
Weve seen and loved when guests are guided to dress in a theme.
Think Western chic, forest formal, disco divas, shades of green whatever best represents you.
Inclusivity goes for the wedding party too.
Dont force your favorite people to wear a dress if thats not their style.
(Yes, this is a fun opportunity for artwork.)
Make Thoughtful Accommodations
Weddings celebrate love.
Share that love beyond your union by ensuring that every guest is comfortable and cared for.
If youre not inviting children, consider offering child care at the hotel block.
Have Fun!
People were giddy over it, she says.
Which leads me to…
Hire A Drag Artist
Drag makes everything better.
Performers can lip-sync and dance, sing, do aerial acts, or even officiate the ceremony.
Drag queens and kings often work for cash tips, which guests may not have on them.
Task a fun cousin with passing out dollar bills.
As Brindamour points out, injecting a dose of personality into old traditions is always a good thing.
[Clients] have a little fun and feel like themselves, she says.
Isnt that the way it should be?
