Sex & Relationships
When listening to Good 4 U on repeat isnt cutting it.
According to experts, its very possible to stop caring about your ex after a breakup.
However, dont expect it to happen right away.
You may be angry, hurt, distraught, and still love them.
We are able to hold multiple feelings in our hearts at the same time.
People fall out of love allthe time, even when they dont want to, she says.
According to Saltz, one way to do that is to invest your time and energy into other people.
Turn your attentions to other important intimate and valued relationships and engage with them instead.
If youre not seeing them constantly, it will be easier for you to separate yourself emotionally.
According to intimacy coachLeah Carey, Theres a name for this time:new relationship energy (NRE).
Its the period when everything looks shiny and perfect, which aids us in bonding with a new partner.
But over time, this energy fades and you eventually start seeing your partner without the rose-colored glasses.
According to Carey, self-reflection is key.
Your fantasy idea of a relationship can be really instructive, she says.
People move on at their own time.
Dont put pressure on yourself to stop feeling things for your ex or to find someone new.
Doing so will only stress you out and make you feel a lot worse.
Theres no timeline on being ready to start dating again, Carey says.
Some people take a day, others take a month, others take a year or more.
Be kind to yourself as you consider when youre ready to open your heart again.
In time, it will happen for you.
