Relationships
Approaching it with curiosity can really transform the experience into a journey of self-discovery and growth.
She shares that use of the term ENM on Feeld increased by over 240% between 2020 and 2021.
Below, Kirova shares her advice on how to date when polyamorous.
If someone is new to non-monogamy/polyamory, how do you suggest they approach that topic with potential new partners?
I would start by reading about different relationship structures to build some understanding and confidence on the topic.
For existing relationships, use your intuition on when and how to raise the topic.
Using language that reflects your experience is always helpful: I would like to, I feel, etc.
are great ways to begin sharing your experience.
Be clear when stating your desires and boundaries, and meet their questions with patience and honesty.
Approaching a pre-existing polycule can be a wonderful journey of self-discovery.
Communicate these experiences with your partners.
double-check you always save some time to reflect.
As is important in any relationship romantic or otherwise its all about open, honest, and intentional communication.
How cannew relationship energy help or hurt people who are new to non-monogamous dating?
Help can come from so many places, including from getting close to a new person.
As vulnerability is important for getting truly close, hurt can also happen.
While youre navigating expectations, the surprising feelings one might experience despite it potentially being uncomfortable are normal.
Any change can come with a level of discomfort.
Approaching it with curiosity can really transform the experience into a journey of self-discovery and growth.
Whatpolyamorous relationship structures(like kitchen table poly, dont ask/dont tell, parallel, closed-V, etc.)
do you recommend for newcomers to the lifestyle?
The key to exploring any relationship structure iscommunication.
How should newly poly people approach feelings of jealousy?
Is it natural, and can it sometimes be healthy?
Jealousycomes with a lot of baggage in contemporary culture.
What is that feeling trying to communicate about your needs and desires?
How can someone approach their partner about wanting to open up their relationship?
What about when their partner might be hesitant?
Whats most important is how we navigate these moments of stress-testing our relationships.
Open and frequent communication is truly essential.
What are some ways you recommend for people to deal with being rejected because they are polyamorous?
Dating is all about patience and being your most authentic self.
