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You should feel comfortable in your own skin and live the life you want to live.
Carmen Electras origin story would make a riveting biopic.
But life wasnt all diamonds and pearls.
BeforeBaywatch, MTV, and those tabloid-catnip marriages, I was completely broke and struggling, Electra says.
Ive gone through some pretty intense things.
Though shes never really stepped out of the spotlight, at 50, shes learned to harness it.
Theres so much people dont know.
Below, Electra sounds off on survival, self-talk, and why worrying is a waste of time.
You grew up as a formally trained dancer?
I did vocal classes, musicals.
That environment was really about pushing.
I ended up heading out West.
Youve said youve always been a big worrier.
How do you conquer anxiety?
I just second-guess myself a lot.
Fear comes and goes.
I just always pushed through so I wouldnt hold myself back.
It helps when things are moving fast and busy.
But even your own personal dialog makes a big difference.
Am I going to be smart enough?
Are they going to like me?
Worrying doesnt help anything.
My advice is to just stay in that moment and enjoy it.
Do you believe in therapy?
Sometimes our friends dont want to hear us complaining all the time.
Friends are supposed to be there to listen, but it can get old.
You might want to find someone to talk to thats completely out of the circle.
I know a lot of people who its helped.
And Ive definitely been in therapy a couple times.
You also love self-help books.
If you were to write one, what would it be about?
It would be really intense.
Because Ive gone through some things people dont know Ive gone through.
I mean, I had a gunheld to my head.
That was a big deal.
At the height of #MeToo, many famous women revealed harrowing stories.
Will you ever share more about the hard times you went through?
When the time is right.
Listen, my heart goes out to any woman thats gone through a #MeToo pop in of situation.
I heard so many stories about the casting couch.
I was really protected from those things earlier on when I was working with Prince.
During the supermarket tabloid era, you were often on Worst Dressed lists.
NowVogueis celebrating your style.
Does it feel like vindication?
In that era, I was trying to figure it out.
But I liked the outfits I was wearing!
Everything was such a big deal in the 90s.
Any little flaw, any mistake was getting circled or pointed out.
And I found myself getting lost and pulled away from the fashion that I love.
Cut to Kim Kardashian recreating one of your iconic looks.
Weve worked together in the past.
Weve run into each other at events and we always talk.
Shes always very sweet to me.
Shes just really, really cool.
You also recently made a splash inThe Last Dance.
Are you still in touch with Dennis Rodman?
A person we both work with put us on the phone.
We said hi, but it was pretty quick.
He asked me to dinner.
Uh… it just wasnt the right time.
I hope hes doing well.
Was motherhood ever of interest to you?
I guess Im a little old-school, where I want a really good guy to do it with.
So thats whats been holding me back.
Im dating and Im having a blast.
Honestly, I always focused on work more than on being a mom.
But that is the one thing I havent done in my life.
Your career is on fire at 50.
Is Hollywood changing its approach to aging?
We can look up to women like J.Lo and think, Wow, she looks gorgeous.
She just got married.
Shes living her best life.
And I want to be inspiring too, hopefully.
You should feel comfortable in your own skin and live the life you want to live.
OnlyFans fits in perfectly because I am the creative director of my own shoots, on my own time.
Theres nothing out there that I havent approved.
And I love connecting with my fans.
Sometimes they have requests.
The fans love feet!
It is so much fun.
I dont know why I didnt do this a year ago.
And the business model is more financially beneficial?
I am my own boss.
I own all the photos.
I think more and more people are going to get involved in this.
I think its the future.
Donald Trump oncesaid something criticalabout your body.
Is there anything you want to say back?
A person in that position, yeah, it was a little strange, right?
It was a little off-the-wall.
So that was weird to me.
That just comes with the territory.
Everyone has a right to their opinions.
If you let those things bother you, it can stop your flow.
So I pretty much ignore that stuff.
And I stick with the positive.
This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.
