Carrie Bradshaw is reeling.
Her choices are chaotic but understandable;Bigs deathis a catastrophic trauma that affects every component of her life.
Whats less reasonable is how her widowhood has begun to warp her friendships.
My suspicion started creeping in even before we could begin crediting at least some of Carries behavior to grief.
Theres something about herfalling out with Samanthathat doesnt add up.
Would Samantha really trash three lifelong friendships over losing a C-list client?
(No offense, Carrie, but she reps sheiks and the movie star Smith Jerrod.)
Its easier to fathom that theres some part of the estrangement Carrie simply doesnt understand.
Rather than approach her friend with empathy, she started from a place of personal outrage and reproach.
HowdareMiranda give into a moment of temptation when shes supposed to be Carries private nurse?
How long have you been feeling this way?
How was the sex on a scale from one to 10?
Carrie was feeling especially vulnerable then; perhaps her judgment was clouded by pain or painkillers.
But no matter how much time passes, she still seems inescapably mired in her own point of view.
How could she mention horniness in the presence of a widow?
Carries sensitivity isnt unwarranted, but theres no filter between how she feels and what she says.
It only gets worse from there.
When Miranda makes the decision to tell Charlotteabout Che, Carrie achieves new levels of egomania.
You know who else probably wishes the water was wine?
The person whos currently being picked apart by her dearest friends.
Big dying issomething, she says dismissively.
This is…I dont know what this is.
When Miranda wants to leave the conversation, thats not allowed either.
People are gone in a second, Carrie says, guilting her back to the table.
It works, and Charlotte apologizes for her hasty judgments, but its still manipulative.
I dont want to be insensitive to Carrie.I love Carrie.
If my husband dies before me, Im sure Ill be myopic about it, too.
And then, eventually, Ill remember that Im not the first person to have ever experienced loss.
Being a widow has left Carrie with a sense of lifes preciousness but no humility.
