Relationships
“You cannot, through perseverance, make someone love you.”
Like Big, he was emotionally unavailable and would push me away every time we got too close.
He refuses to introduce Carrie to his mother, calling her his friend, when she confronts them together.
But it wasnt justSex And The Citypositioning roller-coaster relationships like Carrie and Mr. Bigs as the pinnacle of romance.
Take also, for instance,Gossip Girls Chuck and Blair.
Neither would he let her go.
Thats not the worst part though.
His cruelty is never-ending.
Jessica January Behr,Psy.D.
Because all that drama was normalized through TV shows, and I was addicted to it.
The shows writers chose a mans ambivalence as the obstacle between a woman and the love relationship she wants.
That makes for a never ending source of drama.
Not giving up, or perseverance, is a virtue in the right context, he points out.
You persevere to finish medical school, land a promotion, or complete a triathlon.
But perseverance aimed at the wrong goal is masochism.
You cannot, through perseverance, make someone love you.
Its this act that hacks away at ones self-esteem, says Worthy.
To her I say, we remember all too vividly.
Sources:
Jack Worthy,psychotherapist specializing in dating and relationships
Dr. Jessica January Behr,Psy.D.
