Dating
Plus, TikToks crusader of women shares her favorite pump-up song.
Your followers are often impressed by how well you laugh off theretorts from the men featured in your videos.
Where would you say your confidence came from originally?
It sounds kind of cliche to say, but I was born like this.
If you ask my mom, I’ve always walked like my sh*t don’t stink.
They’ve just inspired me.
I’ve just always been that way.
Whats your advice for people who struggle with confidence in dating?
Know that you are one of one.
Theres literally nobody else like you in the world, and thats the most unique thing ever.
Someone will meet them, I promise!
You’repretty outspoken against fat shaming on TikTok.
Do you consider yourself a proponent of body positivity?
It has no bearing or reflection on you as a person, your character, your worth nothing.
It’s just keeping you alive.
Comparing those two is like comparing getting a flat tire to getting run over.
Both have to do with the car, but one is infinitely worse than the other.
Do you have any advice for people who struggle with their body image while they’re dating?
So don’t worry about them.
They’re not in those dating pools.
They’re not getting matches.
They’re not getting likes.
It’s truly like their imagination.
The really good people are not going to be like that.
A genuine person isnt going to factor in what your body looks like.
If they do, it’s going to be like, “I think you look great.”
And I say that all the time, you don’t have to prove anything to men like that.
Let them go off and make jokes with all their friends.
Again, know that life is too short not to go after what you want.
If you like that person or think theyre cute, go for it!
Youre in no worse off position than you were initially.
And anyone would be lucky to hear from you.
So be confident, know youre the baddest b*tch alive, and go after what you want.
If they arent interested, their loss!
Do you have any mantras or pump-up songs?
I’m a huge fan of affirmations, so I say them all the time.
I say them in the morning.
I say them to myself in the mirror.
It feels cheesy at first, but when you do it enough times, it really helps.
Come up with some affirmations that you’re free to recite to yourself in the mirror.
Then as far as music goes, Meg Thee Stallion works.
Girls in the Hood is a great song.
Bad b*tch energy.
It’s a great song to listen to when you’re getting ready.
Someone that doesn’t derive all their worth from them.
Speaking of that energy, a huge part of that is knowing your worth.
What are your standards when it comes to a potential partner?
But those are my big ones.
Whats your advice for people who struggle with knowing their worth in dating?
Thats the patriarchy/misogyny hard at work.
Its trying to make you settle for less than you deserve.
Never let that seep in; understanding that you deserve the best will attract the best.
How do you know when to walk away from a partner or relationship?
Its different for everyone because were all on our own journey emotionally.
And relationships are so complex and intimate.
But across the board, its when you dont feel like fighting anymore.
And thats applicable in multiple ways.
Fighting for your relationship, yourself, your partner.
Giving up is the mark of the absence of love.
And although it can be tragic, it just means you werent with the right one.
This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.
