Ask Gen Z
The Anal Princess spills the deets.
Here, TikTok and OnlyFans creator Stella Barey gives tips on enjoying sex more.
At just 23 years old, Stella Barey has become one of the buzziest porn stars on social media.
And, afterthe pandemic killed many peoples sex drives, they want her advice now more than ever.
Below, she gives her best advice on having better sex.
So many TikTokers come to you for sex advice.
How did you find out what you like in bed?
Solo play is the best way to figure out what you like mentally and physically.
I used to have a really hard time orgasming.
The main reason was because I didnt know what to do physically to make myself orgasm.
Secondly, because I couldnt mentally focus on orgasming, I didnt know how to.
Its not just about imagining what you think should be hot.
Its about meditating while you masturbate to allow whatever thoughts pop into your head to come to the forefront.
If you dont know where to begin, start watching porn and see what makes you tingle.
Keeping things hot in bed can be hard in a long-term relationship, especially during a pandemic.
Is there a simple way to keep things sexy?
Watch their favorite porn with them and both masturbate together or have sex while watching.
Another great thing that I think all couples should try is new toys.
Its bound to cause a laugh or two, and definitely a good orgasm.
What toys would you recommend for couples?
What about solo play?
A tiny siliconebutt plugin your butt (or theirs) during sex can also be super hot.
What about introducing kinks in bed?
Do you have any advice on exploring with a new partner?
Laugh, laugh, and laugh more.
Keep it fun and silly.
Watching porn together that explores that kink is also helpful.
What would you say to someone who is hesitant to experiment in bed?
But growth always comes when you move in the direction of your fears.
If you fear something, its oftentimes the thing you should probably do most.
Speaking of confidence, many peoplewant to sext but get too embarrassedor get writers block.
Is there a secret to sending the perfect sext?
Sexting is all about visualizing a story in your head and playing it out sentence-by-sentence for your partner.
If you dont have any go-to fantasies, you could even just describe what happens in your favorite porno.
The key is also to keep each text short, simple, and naughty.
Writing out long descriptions with proper punctuation and too many adjectives and adverbs is not hot.
You guys are writing a fun sex story together.
Words are all you need for a hot sexting session.
As a top creator on OnlyFans,taking a good nudeis an important aspect of your job.
What are your best tips?
People want to see you and get an intimate view of your world.
Its the time to be an amateur.
Dont aim for perfection.
give a shot to capture the feeling that its the first nude youve ever taken.
This is intrinsically empowering because its an exercise in vulnerability and self-acceptance.
Remember, the things that are hot when youre horny arent always hot when youre not horny.
Dont judge your nudes from a non-horny brain.
Be fun and loose and silly and nasty and unfiltered and human.
Do you have any tips for the best way to prepare for anal?
First, verify youre horny and that youre doing it with someone youre really comfortable with.
That should always be the case, but especially with something as intimate as anal.
In terms of tips for preparation, youll hear a lot about enemas and anal douches.
I do anal way too much for that.
If they want a clean hole, they can use your vagina!
I stopped using an anal douche for this reason.
My favorite way to prepare is: 1) Listen to my body.
I know when I have to poop.
I dont do it then.
People always say, But I always poop first thing in the morning!
But if you have anal before you even stand up, I swear its always clean!
- Stick your finger up your butt beforehand and feel around.
If it feels clear, youre good to go!
Thats what I always do.
Its an exercise in self-exploration.
One thing youve talked about before on TikTok is the unrealistic nature of porn.
What would you say to someone who feels this pressure to look good in bed?
If you look at the top porn videos on Pornhub right now, its real bodies and real people.
That kind of porn can be hot.
People are drawn to the real thing.
Its also the hottest when no one is acting.
When there are pauses, silence, giggles, tension, and intimacy.
This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.
