Relationships
I love you and I dont even know you.
Before my 30th birthday, I swiped my way through one less-than-idyllicsituationshipafter another.
Six months later, I manifested my boyfriend.
Well, within seconds of my Polaroid-style portrait starting to develop, Dalton dropped some hard truths.
First, she could tell I am anempath, which could cause relationships to be extra hard for me.
Fortunately, my aura wasnt all doom and gloom.
In hindsight, she was absolutely right: I just needed some direction on how to harness it.
She suggested I get aHimalayan salt lamp, someselenite crystals, and some sage tocleanse my space.
After that, I was to dedicate one day a week to manifesting my spiritual partner.
To do this, Dalton prescribed that I write down seven to 10 ideal qualities in a S.O.
basically, a journaling exercise that puts the idea like attracts like into motion.
I felt positive, creative, attractive.
At the very least, I went to bed with a smile on my face after saying these affirmations.
(Quite unlike my typical habit of overthinking DMs I send on dating apps.)
While manifestation may seem out there, your brain is actually hardwired to do it, according to neuroscientistDr.
There are three mechanisms involved: selective filtering, selective attention, andvalue tagging, she tells Bustle.
After just two months of doing this practice, I found my confidence building.
I was extremely clear about who I was, what I deserved, and what I wanted.
I felt ready to try Hinge in the quest for the person I put on that dream partner list.
I also saw he completed a Tough Mudder Race (definitely driven!).
This spoke directly to my animal-loving heart.
There were no games it was just built off of mutual understanding and kindness.
He kind of giggled and said it was nice.
It was at that moment that it clicked for me: He had an open mind.
This guy was totally meant for me.
