Sex
Is it because I sometimes squirt during sex or pee when I sneeze?
I have had an issue withsquirtingat times and evenpeeingwhen I sneeze.
I have been seeing doctors about these unexpected bladder spasms in an otherwise healthy 28-year-old with no children.
They don’t know what’s going on but think it’s benign.
They only offer pills for treatment, which aren’t 100% effective at prevention.
How can I say this in a way that doesn’t make him feel attacked?
I really do get why this has bothered you; I think youre correct to be bothered!
Firstly, I dont know how else to say this other than: squirting isnt an issue.
I dont mean to say that anyone has to be into it or anything!
You know what else makes a big, sloppy production during sex?
Its normal for there to be wetness when you have fun in bed.
Its just evidence that you had a great time.
But I would like for us all to ask some questions about what the standards are and for whom.
That may be your boyfriends issue with going down on you.
If squirting is behind his reluctance, he has a lot of options at his fingertips.
Speaking of fingers, he could start with his mouth and then move on to his hands.
You could tryshower sex.
To me and it seems like to you thats the real problem.
Im very glad that you find it concerning because it is!
Maybe it has something to do with you or maybe it has something to do with him.
Maybehis libido has tanked because of stress,his mental health, or new medications.
I really dont know and I cant guess, and honestly, you cant guess anymore, either.
He should not feel attacked by his partner coming to him asking for honest communication.
(And think about what that means if he does!)
you’re able to still come into it gently like you did here.
Its his turn to be a little uncomfortable for your sake!
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