She was a questioning woman and I am queer.
But she kept telling me and showing me just how interested in me she was.
But she soon started to realize that there were some things that she just couldn’t see herself doing.
Basically, she realized she was straight and I affirmed her straightness.
So I feel like I was able to get over her.
Now, I’m talking to someone else; it’s going great.
But there’s a part of me that can’t shake the feeling that Im moving on too fast.
There are people in my life who think I’m still with my ex.
I’m not the announce-y jot down, and I don’t feel the need to clarify things.
Is it too soon or should I not overthink it and enjoy my time with this new person?
A:Very few things on Earth have an appropriate, concrete, set timeline.
I think a huge part of this is because time does not equal feeling.
To me which means anyone is welcome to feel otherwise!
a month of dating is not all that long.
That isnt to say it didnt come with very big feelings, perhaps even love.
Thats unfair and upsetting.
But Im happy that the relationship ended when it did.
Frankly, it seems like the relationship was very one-sided in two different ways.
That is, simply put, not great.
It was a little awkward, but it was fine.
Occasionally you ask someone about their ex!
Its not some grand sign that youve done something wrong or that there is judgment.
Love who you love, work on the relationship youre in, and go from there.
And I admit that this is based on my own ego-driven bias, Im sure.
(Most things are, right?)
A realbreak, a break where they havenoromantic attention from anyone.
Its very, very difficult to do to build up your own self without any romantic reflections back.
But I think its a project worth undertaking from time to time.
What are you going to do?
Not fall for them?
My point isnt to stop love in its tracks or to end things for the sake of being alone.
It’s worth interrogating, I think.
Its worth figuring out about yourself.
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This article was originally published onJune 9, 2022
