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And how to start new (read: cheaper) traditions.
You know how quickly the cost can add up, too.
I have six nieces and nephews, Gemma, 31, tells Bustle.
As a grad student, Gemma doesnt have extra money topay for that many presents.
So manygift swaps focus on quantity, and thats true even if you come from a smaller pack.
My family is tiny, but we like to go all-out on Christmas, says Jen, 35.
Heres how to broach the subject.
So dont be surprised if youre met with hurt feelings or resistance.
Your choices in gift-giving should be guided by your financial situation, personal beliefs, and emotional capacity.
Lets say your sister crumbles over the idea of forgoing gift-giving.
Assure her that this is only about setting a budget and not about giving up the tradition entirely.
Maybe the financial strain of overspending on gifts is leading to stress and anxiety, says Van Ness.
Giving real-life examples should help everyone understand this isnt about them.
This can make the transition smoother for everyone involved.
Torn suggests going into this convo with alternative ideas at the ready.
(More on that below.)
For Katrina, this is the method that works best for her familys swap.
No one gets offended, as we have a hard rule of no extra gifts and a strict budget.
Setting a budget or spending limit is another good option.
This is the approach Gemma decided to take and its been working out.
Usually I wont spend more than $10 to $20 per family unit, she says.
It allows her to save money while keeping the fun and excitement alive.
My 8-year-old niece still has the sh*tty plush headphones I got her from Five Below.
She loves them because theyre from me.
According to Van Ness, there are plenty of ways tocelebrate the holidays without spending a penny.
Explore local holiday events, such as tree-lighting ceremonies, parades, or community festivals, she says.
Its a great way to celebrate the season without emptying your wallet.
Another way to save money?
Consider all the different personalities in your family and adjust your spending accordingly.
Meanwhile, if your dad would be completely heartbroken without a gift, invest your money in him.
As Van Ness says, it becomes more about the sentiment than the specific item.
I cannot wait, even though I will be buying it and wrapping it.