Of course, these unrealistic expectations and that wildly sexist and outdated term are complete trash.
(*Waits for you to stop throwing tomatoes.
On Interacting With Your Bridal Party And Family
1.
Remember Theyre Your Loved Ones, Not Staff
Your inner circle goes througha lotin pursuit of your bridal bliss.
They make room in their budgets, their calendars, and their emotional bandwidth to support you.
Are you having a destination bachelorette party, and is attendance mandatory?
Should they budget for an expensive dress, or can they choose their own?
Who is paying for your bridal shower(s)?
I didnt think it was worth my mental health at the end of the day.
It was disheartening and made me question the depth of my friendship with the bride.
Chill Out With The Required Attire
I get it you have a vision!
This can absolutely count as your gift to thank them for supporting you during this time.
Have Some Perspective
You may feel like your wedding is the only thing that matters in the world.
The decision was not well-received.
The bride basically told me that her bridal shower and my health were of equal importance, Abigail says.
On Working With Your Vendors
8.
As you might probably guess, the bride left without a dress that day.
Dont be that bride.
Bring one or two people whose opinions you truly value or perhaps even better, go alone.
Im going to do my job better if Ive been fed.
Weve been on our feet for 10 hours, sweating and running around.
Like, we need more than a cold sandwich.
(But if you really need to hear it: Tip!
Tag your vendors on social media and sing their praises!
Remember that your vendors are humans, too, and we love to feel acknowledged and appreciated.
On Celebrating With Your Guests
11.
On Planning With Your Partner
15.
Dont Make It A Wedding-tatorship
Surprise!
For Michael*, a 2022 groom, that was certainly the case.
Set Wedding-Planning Meetings
This was a game-changer for my husband and me when we were wedding-planning.
Schedule Alone Time On The Big Day
Take a look at your wedding day timeline.
On Actually Enjoying Yourself
19.
But then allow yourself to move on and enjoy the process.
Someone is always going to have a bigger budget or a more raucous bachelorette party.
you’re free to be judgy, just do it quietly.
Remove yourself from the behind-the-scenes chaos and let your support team take over.
This is where hiring awedding planneror day-of coordinator really comes in clutch.
Dont Get Too Drunk
Sorry to be a buzzkill, but its for your own good.
Have Some Fun, Wont Ya?
Wedding planning is stressful.
The day of your wedding is overwhelming.
These are facts every bride has to deal with.
How you handle it makes all the difference in how you remember it for years to come.
If that gets forgotten … youre going to [miss out on] enjoying your own wedding day.
*Names have been changed.
