Relationships
It confronts you, inevitably, with your deepest fears.
Monogamy isnt for everyone.
But what exactly is an ENM relationship, and is it right for you?
According to experts, there are a few key things you should know.
Swinging,polyamory, andopen relationshipsall fall under the umbrella of ethical non-monogamy.
And thats an incredibly important part of ENM: defined, communicated, and agreed-upon rules.
For some, sex is OK, but making a romantic connection is not.
Others may choose to tell each other everything.
How Do I Know If An ENM Relationship Will Work For Me?
If youre curious about ENM, start by doing your research.
Before making your decision, its important to have a thorough understanding of what ENM is and isnt.
you’re free to ask yourself questions like, does monogamy excite me?
Do I feel like I could extend my relationship beyond the one Im currently in?
Does the thought of that give me joy?
If it does, then it might be something worth exploring further.
And it can be whatever you (and your partner(s)) want it to be.
Would Ethical Non-Monogamy Suit Your Current Relationship?
If youre currently partnered, opening your previously monogamous relationship has its share of risks and rewards.
For many, ENM actually ends up deepening their love and dedication towards each other.
It’s refreshing and incredibly valuable to have a place between you to express your full truth.
It confronts you, inevitably, with your deepest fears, Tran says.
Opening up your relationship is very, very hard work.
Ask yourself, what are you and your partner looking for out of an alternative arrangement?
Most importantly,how well do you two communicate?
Once youve decided to try it out, remember that you’re free to change your mind.
Check in and communicate regularly about those boundaries because its possible for them to change.
Changing your mind is allowed.
Again, there isnt a set way to do things thats the ethos of ethical non-monogamy, after all.
Its totally up to you and your partners.
