I dont know if theres anything Im doing wrong or something I should be doing differently.
It just doesnt give me any pleasure.
A:Man, oh man, you have come to the right place.
I am, unfortunately for my mentions in 2018, the author ofa piecetitled Kissing!
if that gives you a hint of my own stance on the matter.
To be clear, Ive experienced both good and bad kisses (a brag).
And I have liked loved, even!
It is perfectly OK not to enjoy certain physical acts.
Some people arent huggers.
Some people find cuddling off-putting.
Some people dont ever want to give or receiveoral sex.
There are all kinds of things that we do and dont want to do with our bodies.
You arent going be turned on by everything.
This is especially true, Ive found, as time goes on with a partner.
Which, if not ideal, is understandable.
Once youve witnessed someone clip their toenails, its kind of hard foreverythingthey do to be a turn-on.
If there are things you and your partner are doing thatarehot to you, do those!
If you love road head and back massages, express that to your partner.
You mentioned that youve enjoyed kissing more on occasions when youve been tipsy.
Otherwise, you have no need to worry about not liking one physical act as much as you hoped.
Is it a bummer?
I wish kissing inspired more of anAWOOOGAmoment for me.
I will also admit that my relationship to kissing has changed, and probably will again.
Maybe at some point kissing will feel more exciting to you.
Maybe if you dont pressure yourself to feel excited by it, more enjoyment will follow.
Thats OK, too!
For now, do what turns you on.
If you dont like kissing, dont initiate it.
If you dont mind kissing, let it happen when it happens.
Suggest things you do like, things thatdoturn you on they dont have to be physical, either.
Share those readily and enthusiastically.
Leave kissing for all the hotties out there who love tongue-on-tongue stuff more for them!
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