It’s A Pleasure
This can be a fun endeavor.
What can I do to reach orgasm during sex?
But frankly, thats not a much worse spot than youre already in, so lets go!
Firstly, it seems likemasturbatingworks for you in terms of achieving an orgasm, which is fantastic news.
You already know at least one way to get yourpetitetomort.
(kindly dont explain French to me; I know that makes no sense.)
Two things I think are worth mentioning: Firstly, you might consider simply adding masturbatingintoyour sex.
And dont misunderstand me I dont mean that it has to be centered on their pleasure!
They can make out with you or kiss your neck while you go at it.
Just keep in mind that doing something sexual with your body with your partnercounts as sex.
They should be so lucky to have you share any shred of intimacy like that with them.
This is actually pretty good info to have!
Ive just found 10,000 ways that wont work.
What makes sex feel different from masturbation?
Is it how you touch your body?
Does it seem to be physical or mental?
Are you having a hard time being in the moment during sex?
Start thinking about what feels different between sex and masturbation.
So trust me when I say that the objective isnt to make them feel the same.
Fantasy often plays in more with masturbation, and intimacy with sex.
Those things are going to make for different experiences.
And then comes the hard part:communicating that to your partneror partners.
The best advice I have is to be nervous about it and do it anyway.
Dont give yourself an out.
Start asking for things!
You very well may be wrong about what works.
The good news is that you say you enjoy sex!
If youre having fun during, then it really doesnt matter how it ends.
You are more than allowed to have sex and itnot result in an orgasm every time.
Orgasms are not, despite societal insistence otherwise, the goal of sex.
Sex is meant for fun and intimacy.
Its meant to make you feel good.
People have orgasms in their sleep for heavens sake sex is so much more than that!
Keep trying new things.
Do things that arent meant to or required to end in an orgasm that still turn you on.
Have your partner go down on you while you read a horny story.
Youre allowed to have fun with the trying, even if some or all of it fails.
This can be a fun endeavor!
Just be easy on yourself.
Its A Pleasure appears here every Thursday.
This article was originally published onAug.
