Extremely Online
From engagement chicken to red nails, I tried nearly everything that came across my FYP.
Itll come to you when you least expect it.
Theres now so much dating advice at our fingertips that extends beyond that overused phrase.
I have the rewards points from Ulta after buying everyviral aphrodisiac perfumeto prove it.
The Freudian dating theory made its rounds in 2022.
Theres this novelty of having a stranger listen to you, Avgitidis tells Bustle.
You might actually take their advice to heart compared to your friends.
Sometimes you get the advice that you want to hear too.
Avgitidis explains that many creators lack the qualifications to speak as legitimate dating experts.
I had never thought to look into the credentials of the people that I was taking advice from.
Dating videos were just part of my algorithm, and I tuned in because the titles seemed interesting.
Sometimes lived experience is just as important as academic knowledge when it comes to dating.
In turning to TikTok, it was comforting to know that I wasnt alone in wanting a serious relationship.
With nothing to lose, I grabbed a piece of paper and started outlining the person I wanted.
I folded it up, tucked it far away in my drawer, and completely forgot about it.
Then, we broke up two months later.
If it worked for me once, whos to say it couldnt work again?
The video instructed me to call all the love that Id given away back to myself.
A few positive affirmations later, my ex was asking me to come over to see him again.
Still, weeks went on, conversations became shorter, and we never got back together.
As the TikTok dating lore went, If they wanted to, they would.
For me, these words eliminated the blurry lines and confusion that had been present during our breakup.
If theyre your f*ck buddy, if they wanted to date you they would be dating you.
That is the only time [that advice] works, Avgitidis explains.
Avgitidis says that these self-proclaimed dating experts have used this viral phrase as a generalized piece of advice.
It also takes a lot of the fun out of dating.
Why does every single first date have to lead to marriage?
I was guilty of this mindset.
Another creator,@tealeiamthebest, believes that getting coffee and grabbing drinks are unacceptable as first dates.
She says thats giving the bare minimum and that it does not make her feel special.
Creator@fleeksiealso said that men who ask women on coffee dates arent trying hard enough.
(Meghan Markle and Emily Bluntalso got engaged after making similar roast chicken recipes.)
By taking TikToks advice to heart, I had taken the fun out of dating.
It turns out that engagement chicken is something that I can enjoy by myself or with my family.
Red nails, though?
Those arent for me… and thats more than OK.
Source:
Maria Avgitidis, CEO ofAgape Match
This article was originally published onJan.
