It’s A Pleasure
I have no idea where to start.
And prior to that relationship, I hadnt had much experience.
Now that Im single, Im worried I have no idea what Im doing.
Im looking to just be single for a while and hopefully have some fun, casual sex.
But I think my confidence level is going to get in the way of me actually enjoying it.
Im also just not sure where to start!
My questions are: Are dating apps the best way to do this?
So far they seem pretty creepy.
A:I love this question!
That is the metric on which the sex you have should be graded.
Is this hotto me?
You say you dont know much beyonda few basic positions.I firmly believe that doesnt matter.
People have been banging for millennia.
Theres a reason the classics are classics!
However, youre on the precipice of discovering newhorny things,which is so, so,soexciting.
Thats the good stuff.
Im thrilled for you!
Let yourself wander a bit.
tap on something new and titillating.Listen to your body.Does something unfurl a peel of desire?
Read more about it.
Watch more of it.
Find Tumblr porn gifs of it.
Approach this all with curiosity and openness.
I virtually guarantee you will find surprising new things that make you hot and bothered.
Ultimately, the answers lie within.
I have no idea whats going to turn you on but I promise youll find it!
Im talking mild discomfort here butterflies not feeling distressed or unsafe.
Do not push through fear, just excited nerves.
What is on the other side (hot, new sex stuff) is so worth it.
You dont have to ask for anything outrageous (unless you want to!).
If youre onsextingterms with someone, expressing yourself through a screen might feel less scary.
or Will you eat me out tonight?
are perfectly wonderful ways to ask for what you want.
you could point out when somethings awkward.
you’re free to make jokes.
you’re able to laugh together.
Thats when sex is really good!
As for dating apps: sure!
Theyre a pretty great way to find people with similar dating goals.
Mainstream ones (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, etc.)
Be safe, share your location with friends, and have fun.
Casual sex is really a gift.
It lets you experience someone elses body andintimacyon terms that dont require massive emotional investments.
(Obviously, basic decency and kindness are non-negotiables.)
That said, it doesnt work for everyone.
Some people wind up feeling kind of empty or lonely afterward because of the lack of romantic connection.
If you find yourself feeling that way, take a break and consider what would work best for you.
Honest vulnerability is a turn-on.
You do not need to feel like the hottest person on Earth who knows the most about sex.
You just need to feel like, Im happy to be here.
Im going to have a nice time.
Becausethatis the goal of sex.
Its meant to be spicy, yes, but also fun.
Experience is great, but dont forget to chase pleasure, too.
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