It’s A Pleasure
I’m worried about my ability to satisfy someone.
Q:Why do women feel like only a bigger penis can satisfy them?
A:Short answer: they dont.
One of the most fraught parts ofsexis that our bodies are involved.
Bodies carry a lot of meaning, baggage, and history, much of which we do not choose.
Are there people who wanthuge dicks?
Who seek that out?
Yeah, there are.
Theyre loud but few.
Everyone else I know is kind of like… a dick is a dick is a dick.
Were not doing this out of some kind of weird magnanimous kindness.
It is too much!
Most dicks are average; if you graph size distribution, 95% fall within that range.
Like penises, it seems most people hover around the average,which is 3.7 inches.
This means big dicks can hurt.
And not in a fun way.
On that note,most people with vaginas arent coming from penetration anyway, regardless of what youre slinging.
Its not as helpful as youre probably imagining.
Ive hadawful sexwith a big dick involved and wonderful sex with a smaller dick involved.
And lots ofgood sexwithout a dick involved at all!
Its true that some people fantasize about and fetishize larger members.
But fantasy and desire, while deeply intertwined, are not the same.
It means learning what your current partner wants, what turns them on, and what makes them come.
And if that just so happens to be a large object inserted into their vagina?
There are all kinds ofdildosout there.
As Ina Garten says, store-bought is fine.
Its A Pleasure appears here every other Thursday.
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This article was originally published onJan.
