I’ll Have What She’s Having

Being independent and not having to answer to some loser is priceless.

Its 11 p.m. on a Wednesday night, and Nate* has just left my studio apartment.

I figured Id lose my virginity to my future husband in college.

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Id rather be having fun than sitting at home swiping on apps, being like, I hope Mr.

Right calls me, says Megan*, 33, who lives in Nashville.

Before he pulls out, hes ready to go again.

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The sex is 10/10 I have no complaints.

Her life is booked and busy, and shes much happier now than she was with her exes.

Id date a divorce, Id date your dad, Id date your little brother, whatever.

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But she has no plans to settle down unless she meets someone who sweeps her off her feet.

I have freedom, I have money, I have my own place.

I know how to take care of myself, she says.

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So yeah, Im going to say say f*ck it, because Im allowed to.

Jennifer*, 39, from Los Angeles, experienced an unexpected glow-up this decade.

I remember turning 30 and I was devastated.

I was like, I am so old, she says.

Then something happened around 32, 33 Ive never been hit on more than in that era.

Being independent and not having to answer to some loser is priceless.

If you find all that in one person, great, but you probably wont.

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For many women, myself included, being single for longer made this coming-out journey possible.

Emily*, 31, from Brooklyn, has fully stepped into her queerness in the last year.

Thanks to changing cultural norms, even women who dont consider themselves queer are feeling more open to experiment.

She seized the moment and went for it.

I was like, Thats fun.

Im not super into girls, but I was curious about it right then.

When else is a tall, beautiful stripper going to be like, I want to make you come?

That especially hit home when she met up with an ex from 15 years ago.

What if I got married right after him?

That seems insane to me.

Shes living her best life, no partner needed.

The hot stripper was just icing on the cake.

*Name has been changed.