Wellness
According to TikTok, I’m not alone in my tendency to hold back the truth.
A few years ago I went through a phase where I was really into doing standup comedy.
But according to TikTok, its common tosmile and say you feel great even when you dont.
Instead of being honest, she gives the right answer, despite knowing it isnt the whole truth.
In reality, her therapist doesnt know whats going on in her life.
In that case, it’s easier to keep things light so you dont have to face tough topics.
Its also common to omit certain facts until youget comfortable with your therapist, Torn says.
People pleasingis another big factor.
Instead of sharing how you truly feel, you might reply by saying that youre good or busy.
If youre like me, you may also try tomake your therapist laughrather than reveal whats on your mind.
Its also perfectly acceptable to say you arent quite ready to talk about a certain topic.
Remember that thegoals you have in therapyare your goals, says Torn.
Agood therapistwill help you get there in your own time.
It could also help to say out loud whenever you feel the urge to lie.
After all, the goal is to eventually let your guard down.
it’s possible for you to always find an audience for your jokes elsewhere.
Source:
Carrie Torn, LCSW, licensed therapist in North Carolina
