Weve had a big fight and gotten through it, so I know we can actually communicate.
Recently, we talked about getting engaged, and I sent him some photos ofringsI like.
My friends havent said anything outright, but I feel like theyre judging me.
I get that weremoving fast,but why wait if I know this relationship is right?
A:When it comes to walking andSephorasales, I like to move fast.
You wouldnt be wrong to describe me as glacial.
I just want you to know my bias going in.
Not everyone is like this.
One of my best friends believes speed is romantic and passionate.
Shessaid I love youweeks into a relationship.
She doesnt think its crazy to move in with someone after just a few months.
Her relationships tend to implode around the year-and-a-half mark.
because how does he not know that right now you just need a heating pad and a hug?
During this phase, you experience a rush of feel-good hormones, the most powerful of which is dopamine.
Ask yourself sincerely why you oughta escalate your relationship this quickly.
Why does sooner equal better?
Why not wait even one extra year?
I think you need real answers here.
You have to buy and measure and cut the lumber together.
And much like building a house, the foundation you build on matters a lot.
Dating is that foundation.
Your relationship is strong now, and thats wonderful, but thats not enough.
Youll have more time to recognize the patterns in your relationship.
According to ample research,dating longer before marriage leads to longer marriages.
Your friends are not wrong to be concerned.
With all of that said, you dont have to do what anyone says.
Even if that person is your best friend.
Even if that person is me.
Honestly, as long as you dont goPete Davidson mode and get multiple tattoos,youll be fine.
And even then, theres always tattoo removal.
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