Dating
Matchmaker Maria Avgitidis shares the questions you should be asking yourself.
Picture this: Its the year 2021 andthe hottest new pickup lineis Im vaccinated.
Its a trend that extends to Hollywood, with unexpected couples likeKravisandKetemaking their love Instagram official.
Plus, itll help you stop repeating the same pesky dating mistakes over and over.
I have met over 10,000 people and set up over 4,500 first dates, she tells Bustle.
I also help my clients, through coaching, understand what compatibility and chemistry mean.
Sometimes, shell help them fix their picker, so theyll start choosing better partners.
So, how exactlydoesone go about doing that?
(And, no, it doesnt have to backfire like it did forShake onLove Is Blind.)
What does it mean to have a throw in?
How do you meet people within this key in?
Have you ever dated a nontype?
How did you feel then?Whyis that your pop in?
How much have you thought about your key in?
How can we change our thinking about this?
Describe them to me.Thatsyour new punch in.
(Notice how that jot down doesn’t have a particular height restriction?)
If you want a healthy long-term relationship, how would you feel in that relationship?
What kind of temperament keeps you calm, supported, and acknowledged?
That’s a new throw in.
Then they had weekends together, but may have also attended events or done errands alone.
And then the pandemic forced most of us home… together… all the time.
Sh*t will hit the fan.
At some point, our parents will get sick and die.
We might lose our jobs.
Our kids could get sick.
A global pandemic could happen.
That should be your throw in.
What are some other qualities people should look for in a potential match aside from types?
Strong relationships heavily depend on shared values.Learning what those values areand articulating them is a recipe for relationship success.
How can someone abandon their punch in without it failing, like it did for Shake onLove Is Blind?
Of course, attraction is in the eye of the beholder.
I think Shake could have been vetted for a better show not one about blind dating.
This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.
This article was originally published onApril 12, 2022
