Relationships
But it does need to be a mutual decision.
Despite what some tend to believe, putting your relationship on pause temporarily doesnt mean youll inevitably breakup.
But how can you take a break from a relationship in a way that leads to a positive outcome?
According to experts, there are a few key things to keep in mind.
Before you put your relationship on pause, its important to have an open conversation with your partner.
Although its possible that one partner initiates it, the underlyinghowshould always be considered together.
That means both partners should be 100% on board.
For some, dating other people is OK, while others might consider that cheating.
Be mindful of your language, Ilsley says.
That way, your partner wont have the word breakup in the back of their mind.
Most importantly, you and your partner need to agree on a day when youll reconnect.
This is done to prevent more stress, uncertainty, and fear of abandonment in partners, Ghanbari says.
You may find yourself feeling stressed, depressed, lonely, and uncertain about the future.
Although its completely normal, its also important to put yourself in the right mindset.
Taking a break is not a withdrawal, Ilsley says.
Its a reorientation inward.
Being around friends and talking it out can also help you figure out what you really want.
to make it have a successful break, its helpful for both partners to take this time to self-reflect.
Being able to clearly and effectively communicate their needs will help them repair conflicts better.
Psychotherapist and writer,Emily Mendez, M.S.
EdS, also suggests using this time to develop healthy coping strategies for when theres conflict in the relationship.
For example, if there are communication issues, try learning some active listening techniques.
Active listeningis at the core of every healthy relationship and can solve a lot ofcommunication issues, Mendez says.
Sources
Parisa Ghanbari, psychotherapist
Emily Mendez, M.S.
EdS, psychotherapist and writer
Janine Ilsley, LMSW, therapist
This article was originally published onNovember 3, 2021
