Will You Accept This Rose?
TL;DR: Either way is better than snooping for the ring receipt.
Maybe you saw the ring.
Maybe youre already seeing whether venues are booked for 2023.
Whatever the case, youreready to get married,and you were ready for the proposal to happen yesterday.
There are advantages to either.
We spoke to people whove gone throughproposal seasonand emerged on the other side.
Take their advice, try theirstrategies and yo, stop trying to find the ring.
When the time is right, youll see it.
On Waiting It Out
I got proposed to on the Fourth of July.
I had no doubt mynow-husband and I were on the same page, but the waiting was really frustrating.
Instead, just build holiday memories with them and let yourself be surprised if it does happen.
Jenny, 37, married for 10 years
COVID definitely made everything complicated.
That actually got me stuck in a holding pattern I wish I had addressed.
Were not together anymore, and during our breakup, I realized what vastly different pages we were on.
I would be suspicious of anyone using external factors, like COVID, as an excuse.
I saw my now-husband set up a lunch with my dad.
I felt like he was taking calls in the other room more often.
I felt like the dynamics of the relationship subtly shifted in the weeks leading up to the proposal.
I felt like there was a little more secrecy a little less feeling completely in tune.
Jess, 29, married for six years
I made a joke right before it happened!
I was like, Youre being so nice to me are you going to propose or something?
I would say just lose the anticipation and enjoy the ride.
Making jokes can be passive-aggressive unless thats a big part of your relationship.
If its not, have the uncomfortable Is this happening?
conversation so you have a rough timeline.
We both knew when it would happen, and I guess we both brought up marriage to each other.
The proposal happened on vacation, which was expected and fun, because the pressure was off.
So our proposal happened when the families all happened to be visiting.
Bee, 27, married for one year
I asked my partner when we were getting married.
So I guess I proposed?
Jenna, married for three years
This article was originally published onDec.
