Will You Accept This Calendar Invite?

I love this about her.

It makes me feel taken care of, lets me just go along for the ride.

To keep the peace in marriage, some couples are creating Google Docs, Slack channels, and setting up…

I wondered if this was a burden on both of them cloaked as a tool for equity.

(Who wants to punch a timecard when they change a diaper or take out the trash?)

I asked her husband recently, and he shrugged.

Its how we get it done, he said.

We have three kids.

I didnt think so much about this in those glossy, glowy, early days of my marriage.

Some of the more than 100 commenters on TikTok cheered on Ohta for this kind of organization.

Just talking to each other or just figuring it out, however, are easier said than done.

I say this all the time now that I have been married for almost eight years.

There is a fundamental data problem in most marriages.

Rodsky adds that the way to solve for the reporting gap is ownership.

If this sounds mundane and businessy, its meant to be.

They rotate who brings the stacks, she says.

If you dont bring the stacks twice youre out.

Its absurd to me that there are more clearly defined expectations in Aunt Marions mahjong than in most homes.

It was a mess.

Email was the same problem.)

I moved everything over to Slack, and things became better almost immediately.

The Slack never lies is what we always say.

I believe it keeps our marriage strong because it helps us stay connected and on the same page.

Identifying and approaching these as such saves time and prevents emotions from running too hot.

Every relationship will ebb and flow over the years, with times when you are more connected than others.

This article was originally published onMay 18, 2023