Bachelor
No one should be surprised by the seriousness of a relationship.
The Bachelor franchise rarely gets off on being relatable.
Carla Marie Manly,clinical psychologist and author ofDate Smart.
Trust in a relationship is built on a foundation of honest interactions, Dr. Manly tells Bustle.
Yet Chlipala and Dr. Manly explain that relationship contouring isnt just hurtful, its harmful.
Being on two completely different pages in terms of commitment can leave one feeling blindsided, Chlipala says.
You may even start questioning how things should be, and wonder if you were wanting too much.
How To Prioritize Honesty In Your Relationships
Relationship coachLee Wilsonshares that healthy dating is all about transparency.
No one should have to endure the stress of being their own detective, Wilson tells Bustle.
talk.Though it can be intimidating to initiate, its important to know where your date stands.
People who want to pursue a relationship don’t describe it as being casual.
Its an indicator that you ought to move on.
Have their actions been aligning with their words?
Do you feel comfortable asking them about being exclusive?
If you could’t trust someone, the relationship might be doomed already, he says.
While youre never entitled to invade someones privacy, (i.e.
Are they super defensive about their phone?
Always texting someone else?
Do they cancel plans a lot?
From there, Wilson suggests letting the dust settle.
Evidence often presents itself with time, Lee says.
After time has passed, reevaluate the trustworthiness of this person.
Of course, snakes can get into even the most guarded gardens.
And if you find yourself played by a player, Dr. Manly says its never your fault.
If you find yourself caught in a manipulators web, dont blame yourself, she says.
