Dating
No more spiraling after a first date.
The world of dating is full of extremes.
Heres what to know about the 10 date rule.
For starters, the 10 date rule helps stop you from jumping into relationships too quickly.
This approach can help you pace yourself and evaluate what you genuinely like about someone, says Dissanayake.
This rule also allows you tospot red flagsthat might make a long-lasting relationship impossible.
This is also helpful if youhave a hard time committing, even when you really want to.
Does Everyone Deserve 10 Dates?
The short answer is no, not everyone deserves 10 chances.
Theres no need to force yourself to go on more dates just to see if things change.
The same is true if your date is great on paper but you dont feel an initial spark.
Forpeople who fall in love with someones personalitybefore feeling attracted, this is truly ideal.
And if this dating rule doesnt work for you?
Thats OK, too.
Instead of counting dates, ask yourself: Was that fun?
Did I feel respected, excited, happy?
Do I want to see them again?
Dating rules should provide structure and fresh perspectives not limitations, she says.
Setting Up 10 Dates
Another important point?
These 10 dates dont have to all be fancy dinners or expensive trips to the bar.
To get a well-rounded sense of their personality, try mixing it up, says Dissanayake.
Seeing them in different prefs can reveal new sides of their character and how they handle different experiences.
The idea is to get to know each other better.
You might just fall in love.
Source:
Katie Dissanayake, dating and relationships expert, founder and CEO of the anti-ghosting dating appAfter
