BDSM & Beyond
Eight tips for exploring the realm beyond vanilla.
Close your eyes, and picture this.
Your partner reaches for you in bed.
You know exactly whats about to happen, right?
Youll make out for a bit, then clothes will come off.
Its satisfying, but after approximately 500 times, its only natural to wonder What else?
Welcome to the world ofkink.Think biting,bondage, and blindfolds.
Hotwifing and hot wax.
Breath play, knife play, and food play.Exhibitionism and voyeurism.Costumes and cock rings.
If something piques your interest, dont hold back.
So how do you bridge the gap between thinking about kink and actually trying it?
Below, eight tips for switching things up.
Dont Worry About Labels
In the wonderful world of sexuality, labels can go a long way.
Labels also mean different things to different people.
(Like Bustle hi,hello,how are you?)
You might say:
4.
These worksheets have plenty of suggestions, from age play to voyeurism.
Each person should fill one out, indicating which kinks and acts interest them and which dont.
Then its time to discuss!
If you plan to try impact play, for example, whos giving?
Are you using a hand, flog, whip, cane, or paddle?
Which body parts are fair game?
Giraffe, blueberry, and red light are common choices, but anything nonsexual in nature will work.
(Plus, in the heat of the moment, Dont!
can sound like Dont stop.
This journey is no different.
You could also attend in-person demonstrations, workshops, or parties.
it’s possible for you to work up to those more adventurous acts slowly.
Next time, combine it with under-the-bed restraints.
Eventually, you might add an electro-stimulator orwand vibrator, derogatory dirty talk, or water sports.
Next, the giver could explore wearing the dildo during a make-out session.
Finally, you’re able to graduate to pegging (with the help oflube, of course).
If you didnt like what you tried a lick, youll want to say that, too.
Youre developing a stronger sense of what youd like to do next time.
Even on a Tuesday.
