Its nearing bedtime, andLove Is BlindSeason 4 coupleChelsea Griffin and Kwame Appiahare bickering about chores.
Kwame counters by complaining that she doesnt flush when using the bathroom at night.
Dont worry about waking me up just flush the toilet, he pleads.
But some experiences, like moving in together, arent just hard on TV.
So as theSeason 4couples shack up onscreen, Hoffman is here to share her expertise.
What are the most common problems couples face when moving in together?
Lack of clarity and unmet expectations, which often comes up around finances.
What conversations need to be had before moving in together?
Who pays?Money is one of the top three things that couples fight about.
You cant plan for the future if you arent considering your financial future together.
If you could’t do that, how do you create space for both individuals?
What does our potential future look like?Kids?
Saving for a house?
Launching a business together?
What is your vision for the relationship and your combined future?
Under what circumstances would you advise a couple not to move in together?
What red flags should people look out for?
You have to be able to resolve conflict fairly.Dr.
John Gottmansays to look for the magic ratio of 5:1.
For every negative interaction, there are five or more positive interactions.
What about couples who dont move in together after theyre married?
Season 3 couple Matt and Colleen kept separate apartments for at least a year after tying the knot.
I was skeptical because it felt liketheir decision to live separately was a step back in their relationship.
Does the Netflix reality experiment do enough to prove the concept that love is blind?
I would still not say that love is blind.
WatchingIrinaandZackimplode shows that physical chemistry does matter.
This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.
