Relationships
Plus, how to deal the next time your parents ask, So when are you getting engaged?
This kind of relationship timeline has been around for generations… but is it really beneficial anymore?
In much of Western culture, the aforementioned pipeline still seems to be the norm.
If youre in a relationship, think about the influence your community has had on it.
Has anyone in yourfamily pressured you to get marriedor have kids?
If youre newly dating someone, do your friends tell you that you shouldDTR, like, now?
So, this begs the question: Should relationships really follow a timeline?
Getting unintentionally caught up in themilestones of your relationshipis totally normal.
Experts, however, dont prescribe the same concept to the couples they work with.
I don’t believe there is a standard timeline that relationships should or do follow, Chavez says.
Each individual within each relationship has different needs and goals as well as a different relationship history.
As such, each relationship necessarily follows a different arc in moving toward its agreed upon goals.
There is no set timeline that predicts whether a relationship will be happy and fulfilling, they tell Bustle.
For Chavez, the answer is pretty clear.
Folks have needs beyond procreation that take priority, delaying the timeline for many different types of couples.
The idea of courtship (i.e.
Can This Pressure Hurt Relationships?
Dealing with the stereotypes often promoted by entertainment and social media only adds to that experience.
These measures have the potential to amplify self-criticism where instead self-compassion and pride should exist.
can begin to cause stress, resentment, and even the end of your connection altogether.
For some modern couples,marriage will never be in their future but children are.
Other couples might choose a non-monogamous lifestyle in which they share a home with multiple partners.
It truly depends on what makes all partners involved feel loved and fulfilled in their needs.
Experts:
Sarah Brock Chavez, licensed clinical social worker
Neathery Falchuk, licensed clinical social worker supervisor
