Relationships
Its often advantageous to be vulnerable and feel things deeply.
For some,arguments with a partnercan evoke frustration; for others, hurt feelings and tears.
If you relate more to the latter, how did your partner react?
Have you ever been called too sensitive?
Hearing a partner call you too sensitive can really sting, in part because this languagesuggests youre overreacting.
Often, if someones feeling sensitive what they actually need is for their feelings to be validated and understood.
So why would a partner say this, and what are they implying?
Your partner may need some gentle education on this superpower.
They are wired at a brain level to process information more deeply.
… Seen that way, its hard to imagine being too sensitive.
Can you be too innovative?
Or is it maybe just hard for others to understand?
When youre feeling sensitive with your S.O., take a moment to pinpoint what caused the feeling to spike.
Did your partner raise their voice, use unkind words, or suggest blame?
No one asks for trauma.
Its a part of your story and has led you to be the person you are today.
Sensitive people face pressure to hide who they are.
It cuts you off from your greatest gifts, he says.
This can prevent the situation from escalating.
One of the best things it’s possible for you to do is to be vulnerable and honest.
Your partner may need the same patience youre asking of them, Inoa adds.
Staying patient with each other and sharing perspectives without judgment can lead todeeper intimacy and understanding.
If you know what triggers your sensitivity, share that.
have a go at stay calm and be gentle, as they may not understand.
Give one another time to speak without interruptions, Inoa says.
Experts:
Andre Solo, co-founder of Sensitive Refuge and co-author ofSensitive
Maria Inoa, licensed clinical social worker
