Sex & Relationships
Don’t throw in the towel just yet.
The lead-up to getting down with someone youre really into can build up visions of anorgasmic experience.
But what happens when you finally hook up with your incredible new boo and its a huge letdown?
You might be dealing with a case of sexual incompatibility.
Intimacy coach and licensed psychologistDr.
If youve found yourself in this situation, youre certainly not alone.
So, can sexual compatibility be created?
Heres what experts have to say about how to become sexually compatible with a partner.
What Makes Partners Sexually Compatible?
In a practical sense, board-certified sexologist and sex therapistDr.
You and your partner do not have to enjoy the same things to besexually compatible, she tells Bustle.
Mutual masturbation is one of the greatest teaching tools out there, she says.
Bonus: Both of you get to experience pleasure.
Dr. Sherman notes it can also be helpful to guide your S.O.
through verbal seduction or physical touch, too.
Gaining understanding and control of the sexual compatibility with your partner involves much more than just the act itself.
Peters says that several regular behaviors outside the bedroom are what really build success in it.
Does Being Sexually Incompatible Mean The End Of A Relationship?
There are so many reasons why your first few encounters with a new partner might be lackluster.
After all, you cant be with someone who doesnt match your erotic energy, right?
According to Dr. Brame, thats not necessarily the case.
Sex is not the whole of a relationship, she says.
Different couples prioritize sex differently.
Some couples tolerate little to no sex and sublimate their energies into other areas of their life.
Think hobbies, careers, children, etc.
Then there are others who dont want to miss out on all the fun of good sex.
If youre willing to work toward sexual satisfaction with a new S.O.
